|My Thoughts on Feminism and Rape
||[May. 11th, 2012|09:15 am]
What follows is a comment made in response to this article, also stimulated by this one.
I am a 'nice person' not a chauvinist or misogynist. I posted a comment in response to a FB post about women's birth control and rights to their bodies etc. It is described below, but it caused me to be 'unfriended' by a feminist - without any debate or consideration of the points I was raising. This seems to me indicative of a wider malaise with women not willing to extend patience or courtesy to men they do not see immediate advantage, socially or sexually, in knowing. In the end, this collectively harms women as much as the 'loser' men...
Now I agree that women are not given power over for their own reproduction, in fact I strongly agree they should be given consideration for a burden that is both unfair and unavoidable. What I have a problem with is women who look for men who can manipulate their emotions (good salesmen) rather than then those who are less confident and less forward - or 'losers.'
Now I understand that confidence is sexy, and women like to be swept into the arms of a strong man, but where does that leave all the guys who lack a little confidence?
I think if women as a group want to be treated better, they should endeavour to take pity on hopeless guys and take them home and give them an education. Try to broaden out the pool of confident guys with those who have not been so since their boyhood.
As things stand, 10% of the guys get 90% of the hookups. They become arrogant and expect sex, and will rape if they don't get it.
The other 90% would treat the woman better, and then themselves become more confident and increase the ranks of 'nice guys who can pick up.' If that 90% continue to never 'pick up' they remain frustrated and desperate, which is no use to them nor attractive to women. If however they occasionally 'score,' and perhaps maintain a friendship with the lady, then they can be taught to have some confidence AND to respect women who are willing to respect THEM.
At the same time, women are not LOSING control by drinking and acting slutty so that they have the confidence to approach the CONFIDENT GUY, or at least not be blamed for doing so because they are drunk.
NO! They are instead staying (relatively) sober and deliberately choosing a nice, shy guy to take home and educate.
That way, women take some power and responsibility for the whole scene, and so improve it.
We are beyond the days of the Alpha Male and women have to take control of their instincts so that all men can grow beyond their childhood sexuality or their alpha-male arrogance.